Saturday, November 13, 2010


Right now I have the most recent post in the world.

I was just looking at my girlfriend's blog. It makes me smile: I saw the links on the side and I was curious if she had ever linked to my blog (as you dedicated readers know, this blog goes dormant for months at a time). I made the cut despite my paucity of posts! Of course, the link to my blog is titled "was once my fhe group brother," which is both completely accurate and hilariously out of date. (We've been dating steadily for more than 7 months now; we haven't been in the same FHE group for more than 15 months).

I like it, though. It reminds me of one of my favorite narratives. I mean, it's kind of exciting to think that what started as a casual acquaintanceship has grown into a relationship that's pretty intimate, unique, and important to me. With the benefit of hindsight, our early, casual interactions I've seen (imposed?) new significance in (on?) our early interactions.

I love to imagine what it would have been like to write a note to my past self explaining my eventual future with this girl. You know? Like, the day that I met her and was trying to remember her name, it would have been cool to have a little foreshadowing--to know that this girl would become a real, close friend and a serious girlfriend of mine--to know that it's very important to remember this girl's name because she'll pop up in the story later. The other characters can be killed off or forgotten or whatever, but the story won't make sense if you forget this particular girl.

(Come to think of it, a note from my future self explaining my future with her from where I am right now would also be helpful.)

Of course, there's always a bit of foreshadowing--every interaction is a little step either closer or farther apart. But still--the sort of perfect information that would allow you to know instantly whom you can forget the instant you meet them and which people will end up being really important to you seems like it would come in handy . . . either that or would just result in my coming on way too strong to a girl I've just met ("Hi, I'm James. Nice to meet you, especially since we'll get married eventually according to a note I received from the future. Well, if you thought this whole note-from-the-future thing was weird, I'm sure your future self who is married to my future self would not have let me go back in time and deliver this note. I'll see you later.")

ITEM! Now I realize that I should make sure to link to her blog. I do so, but note that I almost never update this blog, so perhaps I can be forgiven for not linking to her sooner and more prominently.

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